Tough Love for Non-Believers

First of all, we forgive you for what you do not believe....or what you may not yet have come to believe, or what you may find it hard to believe....or what you absolutely refuse to believe....

Forgive?

Yes, we forgive you....

Because you are part of the human race just doing its best to get through every day in every way...

NOW, are you ready.........?

Life is just too short...
Opportunities are just within your fingertips...like this keyboard...
You cannot give up....

No mercy. Human equal right to die or thrive......
No mercy for those who just want to pack it up.....
Mercy for us all who will believe in the sunrise of tomorrow...
....the 4 great flashes in everybody's life, age 12 to 92....

Tough love means we nurture you but if you show signs of counterdependence....killing the mentors who have brought you,
or dis-ing those who love you....OK....we understand.....it is your life cycle....

Tough love means ...I love you....through pain, ectsacy, letdown, whatever...

It is,still and always, means, I love you.

Whiteflash is brave stuff. It means we love when it is so difficult to love....so tough that it demands from us us our inner most part of love....our deepest heart, our strongest heart......

Whiteflash gives us strength to handle these moments....mostly with children, sometimes with students, spouses, friends, lovers because we are not alone in the teaching....

Pinkflash can have its tough moments, for sure, but when extraordinardinary events start to pile up on one relationship, son, daughter, wife, husband, friend, colleague, lover....we are put in the position of offering our wisdom....those moments usually bring 'tough love' responses....totally natural...."just grow up and get tough!" is the message universal...

Through it all is love, though its message can get easily misunderstood...
Love is the basic gold standard for us all....families....marriages, parenting, colleagueship...lovers and friends...

"Tough" is part of the fabric. It is not easy to chew. It scratches against your smooth body...

But it means everything. It is tough love...brave, brutal, open,wild, and free...

It confounds us and is the glue of our lives with each other...it sticks us together and makes us bonded...

If you wish to disregard all this, worse, discredit its merit....OK.
Accept, that many strive to understand their equation of life....at whatever age....
They seek purpose...they seek that their whole life makes sense...in order to make it make sense, they conclude that loving through toughness was the only way....

That is a clarion concert that plays in so many, many lives....we love our children...our ultimate gift is that we may be tough in our love but we are still here and will be for them...

I prefer sweet love to everything else. I will take tough love over no love anytime, always....

I will always prefer to give sweet, tender love. When necessary, I will make it tough love...

I hope to never have to say....no love....

Everything is possible if we can just believe...